Question:
I broke up with my ex but now I regret it. What can I do or say to get their attention and get them back?
Answer:
That's a great question and you're not the first person to go through this and you won't be the last either.
It doesn't matter how the relationship ended, the fact still remains that you're left with a broken heart and a void in your life that needs to be filled.
You can try and justify it all you want; who was right or who was wrong, but at the end of they day, you've accepted the fact that you want your ex back. So where do you go from here?
Below I've listed 5 heartfelt tips you can use to help get your ex back in your life.
Apologize
The very first thing you should do is take responsibility for your part of the break up and apologize. However, you need to do more than simply say "I'm sorry". A proper apology must come from the heart. You must show your ex that you've searched within yourself and identified your flaws and assume responsibilty for them. I recommend you take a notepad and make a list of personal things that can be worked on and take action. That way once you talk with you're ex, they will be able to see how much you've progressed and improved as a person.
Clear The Air
Many times in relationships, things get said or not said that are misinterpreted which frequently creates a rift between couples. Take time to clear the air with your ex and speak with them about anything you think they might have taken the wrong way. Don't do it via text message, preferably, do up a hand written letter that enables you to clarify your side of the story. You'd be astonished at how well this works and what's better, your ex won't be planning on a letter from you so they'll be stunned once they get it.
Forgive Them
An additional step on the way to getting your ex back is to forgive them. Yes, it appears hard, but it works like a charm in relationships. After all, you're only human and you're both guaranteed to make a few mistakes. Place yourself in your ex's shoes for a minute here. I'm certain you weren't perfect and would want to be forgiven for a few of the slipups you made during the relationship. So don't you think you need to afford your ex the same courtesy?
Keep Going!
What do you do in the event that your ex isn't really ready to hear from you yet? Don't give up. Things don't happen over night and your ex needs time and space to miss you, so don't smother them at this time. Instead make time to work on yourself and improve as a person, this way when the time finally comes to get together with your ex again, you'll be a better and more desirable person.
Communicate Effectively
Effective communication goes a long way to getting someone back. When it's time to talk about your past relationship, take time to explain what went wrong according to you. Do not lay blame or anything like that, rather evaluate the relationship together and see if you can find common points to agree on. When you have a lay of the land for your relationship do what you can to make things better and you'll find out that your ex will behave in kind.
I broke up with my ex but now I regret it. What can I do or say to get their attention and get them back?
Answer:
That's a great question and you're not the first person to go through this and you won't be the last either.
It doesn't matter how the relationship ended, the fact still remains that you're left with a broken heart and a void in your life that needs to be filled.
You can try and justify it all you want; who was right or who was wrong, but at the end of they day, you've accepted the fact that you want your ex back. So where do you go from here?
Below I've listed 5 heartfelt tips you can use to help get your ex back in your life.
Apologize
The very first thing you should do is take responsibility for your part of the break up and apologize. However, you need to do more than simply say "I'm sorry". A proper apology must come from the heart. You must show your ex that you've searched within yourself and identified your flaws and assume responsibilty for them. I recommend you take a notepad and make a list of personal things that can be worked on and take action. That way once you talk with you're ex, they will be able to see how much you've progressed and improved as a person.
Clear The Air
Many times in relationships, things get said or not said that are misinterpreted which frequently creates a rift between couples. Take time to clear the air with your ex and speak with them about anything you think they might have taken the wrong way. Don't do it via text message, preferably, do up a hand written letter that enables you to clarify your side of the story. You'd be astonished at how well this works and what's better, your ex won't be planning on a letter from you so they'll be stunned once they get it.
Forgive Them
An additional step on the way to getting your ex back is to forgive them. Yes, it appears hard, but it works like a charm in relationships. After all, you're only human and you're both guaranteed to make a few mistakes. Place yourself in your ex's shoes for a minute here. I'm certain you weren't perfect and would want to be forgiven for a few of the slipups you made during the relationship. So don't you think you need to afford your ex the same courtesy?
Keep Going!
What do you do in the event that your ex isn't really ready to hear from you yet? Don't give up. Things don't happen over night and your ex needs time and space to miss you, so don't smother them at this time. Instead make time to work on yourself and improve as a person, this way when the time finally comes to get together with your ex again, you'll be a better and more desirable person.
Communicate Effectively
Effective communication goes a long way to getting someone back. When it's time to talk about your past relationship, take time to explain what went wrong according to you. Do not lay blame or anything like that, rather evaluate the relationship together and see if you can find common points to agree on. When you have a lay of the land for your relationship do what you can to make things better and you'll find out that your ex will behave in kind.