If you are telling yourself that you never get angry, then you are wrong because anger is a natural emotion triggered by the human "flight or fight" defense.
Everyone gets angry sometimes and everyone handles it differently.
Sometimes the results can be good, but if we get angry too often it can have horrible effects on our friends and families along with our health.
You found this article because you have been afraid of the bad effects of your anger and you are looking for solutions to help you out.
What works for someone else may not work for you; keep reading this article to get some ideas to help you out.
Tip 1: Learn to Solve Problems - If you have a nagging problem in your life, like debt or unemployment, then make a pact with yourself to sit down and solve your problems.
Thoroughly think through a plan to solve your problem and then break it down into simple steps.
Be realistic in the time frame that you come up with to get through all of the steps.
If the time frame that you set up for each step is too short, you will become frustrated when you fail, if the time frame is too long you will get bored with your plan because you are not seeing results.
It is important to note here that you may not be able to solve every problem, but if you put your best foot forward, you can say that you tried.
Without putting any effort into your problems, you will be a failure, but at least you will have learned something from the experience.
Tip 2: Learn to Communicate Better - Many times we become frustrated because someone doesn't understand us or even worse, they misunderstood us.
This frustration can lead to anger and feuds between yourself and others.
A couple of simple communication tips to implement are to use "I feel" phrases instead of "You are" phrases.
People will perceive what you are saying in a better light if you start your sentences with "I feel" and they won't be put on defense right away when they hear you attacking them.
Another simple communication tip is to avoid words like always and never.
Nothing is always true and never right ever and these words will allow you to justify your anger.
Avoiding these words will help you to see the world with a "Glass half full" attitude instead of a "Glass half empty" perception.
Tip 3: Learn to Relax - This tip is extremely important; even if you don't have an problem controlling your anger, a little down time for yourself doesn't hurt anyone.
You will also want to learn to relax when a situation that makes you angry arises.
Deep breathing is one of the most recommended on the spot relaxation techniques because it has been proven to work.
When you are put in a situation that makes you angry take a deep breath in and hold it for five to ten seconds.
Then slowly exhale.
As you are doing this, walk away from the situation so you can think about if you are going to confront it or let it go.
This is a tip that I cover in many of my other articles.