Depending on your personality and the personality of your partner, each of you crave a certain amount of space.
Some people prefer having a lot of space to do their own thing while others must be around their beloved practically 24/7.
Neither desire is wrong and is in fact quite beautiful.
The problem is finding the compromise between these 2 extremes where everyone is happy with the choice.
Complicating this is when each of you have very distinct ideas about what togetherness and space means to both of you.
Some folks don't like being alone.
They're much happier spending all their time with everyone, which includes but is not limited to coworkers, friends, family and their significant other.
When engaging in activities that are by themselves, they may feel upset or even depressed.
Other people love their alone time.
Without some solitude every day they feel overwhelmed and have a difficult time relaxing.
They feel that they always have to be there for other people because that is what is "expected of them.
Such a mentality can be physically, emotionally, and mentally fatiguing.
These are the bipolar opposites, however.
Most couples generally fall somewhere in between.
They love the time they spend with their partner, but they also want some "me-time" to balance themselves out and re-center their daily lives.
If both of you fall into this moderate category, then determining your space in the relationship should be really easy.
And if you both are the same type of personality, where you each need a lot of space and time or you both hate being alone, then that makes things easier too since you both will naturally agree on the same desires.
The issues in the relationship come when one has a very different idea than the other.
In fact, if you both have opposite ideas about space and time to yourselves, then you really need to talk to your significant other about what you want and what he/she wants.
Failure to do so will result in misunderstandings and eventual communications breakdown, which of course leads to arguments and breakups, or worse divorce.
Some people prefer having a lot of space to do their own thing while others must be around their beloved practically 24/7.
Neither desire is wrong and is in fact quite beautiful.
The problem is finding the compromise between these 2 extremes where everyone is happy with the choice.
Complicating this is when each of you have very distinct ideas about what togetherness and space means to both of you.
Some folks don't like being alone.
They're much happier spending all their time with everyone, which includes but is not limited to coworkers, friends, family and their significant other.
When engaging in activities that are by themselves, they may feel upset or even depressed.
Other people love their alone time.
Without some solitude every day they feel overwhelmed and have a difficult time relaxing.
They feel that they always have to be there for other people because that is what is "expected of them.
Such a mentality can be physically, emotionally, and mentally fatiguing.
These are the bipolar opposites, however.
Most couples generally fall somewhere in between.
They love the time they spend with their partner, but they also want some "me-time" to balance themselves out and re-center their daily lives.
If both of you fall into this moderate category, then determining your space in the relationship should be really easy.
And if you both are the same type of personality, where you each need a lot of space and time or you both hate being alone, then that makes things easier too since you both will naturally agree on the same desires.
The issues in the relationship come when one has a very different idea than the other.
In fact, if you both have opposite ideas about space and time to yourselves, then you really need to talk to your significant other about what you want and what he/she wants.
Failure to do so will result in misunderstandings and eventual communications breakdown, which of course leads to arguments and breakups, or worse divorce.