There's nothing worse than feeling miserable all the time because nothing seems to go right in your life.
I've been there done that and got the tear stains on my pillow to prove it.
Sometimes life comes at us like a runaway train on a broken record.
Yet, instead of putting a halt to our own misery, we let it come back again and again until it becomes our way of life.
After struggling for months and being miserable with my life I finally discovered the number one reason I continued to be unhappy is because I chose to be unhappy and I wanted other people to know and see how miserable I was.
Not because I wanted them to feel sorry for me, but because I needed them to care.
I needed to feel like someone was on my side and that I didn't deserve all the things that were happening to me.
When bad things happen to us we want and need others to see it and acknowledge it.
We need them to substantiate and condone our unhappiness in order to feel better about ourselves.
However, the more bad things happen, the more we need this acknowledgement and the more we feel unhappy to attain this acknowledgement.
For a long time I played this game, wanting people to justify my misery so I'd have an excuse to continue being unhappy.
Until I realized my pillow wasn't getting any drier and the only one listening to my tears was me.
I was alone in my misery and like they say...
there's no company in misery except misery itself.
I started to look at myself the way other people saw me and what I saw was an unhappy person who never stopped whining and complaining about how terrible my life was.
I was embarrassed to be me.
I didn't want to be this person and I surely didn't want to be around anyone else who was like me.
It was time to give myself a good kick in the rear.
I needed to get over it! Bad things happen to everyone.
It's the way we cope with the bad in our lives that determine how we shape our life and the way we feel about it.
We can either let the bad things control us or we can accept them and move on.
I began by applying these five simple rules to my life.
1) Accept that life isn't perfect.
The moment we accept that bad things are going to happen, the moment we realize it's just another part of life and not the end of the world.
2) Accept the things you cannot change.
You can't turn back time and stop something from happening, therefore, there's no point in letting it control the way you live your life.
3) Change the things you can.
Instead of fussing about the things you can't change, start doing something about the things you can.
4) Be prepared.
If you fear something bad is going to happen, know how to cope with it before it does.
Don't wait until it happens THEN decide what to do.
Make a plan now.
5) Never make excuses.
The more excuses we make the more we let our lives spin out of control and the more unhappy we become.
Remember, the only one who can change the way you feel is you.
Unhappiness is a choice.
If you want to be happy, the quickest way there is to get over it!
I've been there done that and got the tear stains on my pillow to prove it.
Sometimes life comes at us like a runaway train on a broken record.
Yet, instead of putting a halt to our own misery, we let it come back again and again until it becomes our way of life.
After struggling for months and being miserable with my life I finally discovered the number one reason I continued to be unhappy is because I chose to be unhappy and I wanted other people to know and see how miserable I was.
Not because I wanted them to feel sorry for me, but because I needed them to care.
I needed to feel like someone was on my side and that I didn't deserve all the things that were happening to me.
When bad things happen to us we want and need others to see it and acknowledge it.
We need them to substantiate and condone our unhappiness in order to feel better about ourselves.
However, the more bad things happen, the more we need this acknowledgement and the more we feel unhappy to attain this acknowledgement.
For a long time I played this game, wanting people to justify my misery so I'd have an excuse to continue being unhappy.
Until I realized my pillow wasn't getting any drier and the only one listening to my tears was me.
I was alone in my misery and like they say...
there's no company in misery except misery itself.
I started to look at myself the way other people saw me and what I saw was an unhappy person who never stopped whining and complaining about how terrible my life was.
I was embarrassed to be me.
I didn't want to be this person and I surely didn't want to be around anyone else who was like me.
It was time to give myself a good kick in the rear.
I needed to get over it! Bad things happen to everyone.
It's the way we cope with the bad in our lives that determine how we shape our life and the way we feel about it.
We can either let the bad things control us or we can accept them and move on.
I began by applying these five simple rules to my life.
1) Accept that life isn't perfect.
The moment we accept that bad things are going to happen, the moment we realize it's just another part of life and not the end of the world.
2) Accept the things you cannot change.
You can't turn back time and stop something from happening, therefore, there's no point in letting it control the way you live your life.
3) Change the things you can.
Instead of fussing about the things you can't change, start doing something about the things you can.
4) Be prepared.
If you fear something bad is going to happen, know how to cope with it before it does.
Don't wait until it happens THEN decide what to do.
Make a plan now.
5) Never make excuses.
The more excuses we make the more we let our lives spin out of control and the more unhappy we become.
Remember, the only one who can change the way you feel is you.
Unhappiness is a choice.
If you want to be happy, the quickest way there is to get over it!