Though you may have seen a divorce building for years, the reality when it finally arrives is still upsetting. In some instances divorce is the only way to achieve a type of peace. Once the couple chooses to end their marriage, the next step is to finalize the divorce quickly and easily to avoid prolonged agony for everyone involved.
Terrifying tales of divorce are legendary, and everybody has heard one. I have a friend who waited until their youngest child was almost out of college before she pursued a divorce after 40 years of marriage. After discussions, they decided it was going to be a friendly divorce with a fifty-fifty split of the assets. But together they had acquired an impressive amount of assets that the husband was unwilling to share, which caused hardships during the divorce.
The husband's argument was that, being a doctor and earning most of the couple's living, he was entitled to keep most of the assets. Aside from bearing and raising their two children, the wife had assisted in the medical office in the beginning, obtained her real estate license later on, and managed their investment properties while also taking care of their home and family. In her opinion she was entitled to half of everything they owned together.
The couple had planned to ensure that the youngest child would enjoy summer with his family by waiting to file for divorce until September, after he left for college. Not thinking about the feelings of the family, the husband decided to hire the most contentious attorney in town. The decision of the husband brought nothing but disaster. The divorce became more like a war. This caused emotional strife for the entire family. Grown children of divorce can experience a tremendous upheaval, just like younger kids, and that was the case in this particular divorce.
After a long and painful litigation process needlessly initiated by the husband's lawyer, the assets were divided as agreed upon in the beginning after all. Because of the location of the divorce, the inevitable split was fifty-fifty.
The lesson to be learned is that divorce can be simple and relatively pain free. Mediation is a legal, unbiased third party solution to navigate the particulars such as visitation, spousal and child support, and division of property. Mediation is also an effective tool in obtaining a dissolution of marriage. Research shows that couples who use mediation report higher levels of satisfaction. The expense and length of time involved in obtaining a divorce can be greatly reduced by seeking mediation.
Once the decision to divorce has finally been made, couples need professional counseling from a seasoned legal advisor. Each should hire a lawyer that will look after his client's welfare to the best of his ability. It's also important to explore the option of mediation to possibly eliminate some of the conflict involved in a divorce.
Terrifying tales of divorce are legendary, and everybody has heard one. I have a friend who waited until their youngest child was almost out of college before she pursued a divorce after 40 years of marriage. After discussions, they decided it was going to be a friendly divorce with a fifty-fifty split of the assets. But together they had acquired an impressive amount of assets that the husband was unwilling to share, which caused hardships during the divorce.
The husband's argument was that, being a doctor and earning most of the couple's living, he was entitled to keep most of the assets. Aside from bearing and raising their two children, the wife had assisted in the medical office in the beginning, obtained her real estate license later on, and managed their investment properties while also taking care of their home and family. In her opinion she was entitled to half of everything they owned together.
The couple had planned to ensure that the youngest child would enjoy summer with his family by waiting to file for divorce until September, after he left for college. Not thinking about the feelings of the family, the husband decided to hire the most contentious attorney in town. The decision of the husband brought nothing but disaster. The divorce became more like a war. This caused emotional strife for the entire family. Grown children of divorce can experience a tremendous upheaval, just like younger kids, and that was the case in this particular divorce.
After a long and painful litigation process needlessly initiated by the husband's lawyer, the assets were divided as agreed upon in the beginning after all. Because of the location of the divorce, the inevitable split was fifty-fifty.
The lesson to be learned is that divorce can be simple and relatively pain free. Mediation is a legal, unbiased third party solution to navigate the particulars such as visitation, spousal and child support, and division of property. Mediation is also an effective tool in obtaining a dissolution of marriage. Research shows that couples who use mediation report higher levels of satisfaction. The expense and length of time involved in obtaining a divorce can be greatly reduced by seeking mediation.
Once the decision to divorce has finally been made, couples need professional counseling from a seasoned legal advisor. Each should hire a lawyer that will look after his client's welfare to the best of his ability. It's also important to explore the option of mediation to possibly eliminate some of the conflict involved in a divorce.