Lying is something everyone does from time to time.
An innocent white lie is one thing, but what about bigger fabrications? Is it ever okay to steer away from the truth? The simple answer is no.
Once we lie, we're bound to our words.
What results is an obligation to maintain the fib, which only grows out of control.
Lying is never wise, but being dishonest with a date is romance suicide.
Read on to learn why.
Why do we lie? Put plainly, we don't feel good about ourselves.
We don't think we've got much to offer, and we want the other person to be attracted to us.
While some people are compulsive liars, most people lie to fudge the truth about who they really are.
What's the big deal? The big deal is that it starts the relationship off on a bad foot.
The purpose of dating is to get to know another person, so when you lie, they're not meeting the real you.
If the relationship progresses, it's only a matter of time before the truth comes out.
When that happens, you've lost your partner's trust.
First-Date Lies The most common lie occurs during a first date.
One person is having a bad time, but neglects to tell the other person.
Instead of suggesting they remain only friends, they lie, saying they'd like to date again sometime.
They do so because they fear hurting the other person's feelings.
What they don't realize is that their lie does more harm than good.
In all cases, be honest.
Final Thoughts If you're constantly being dishonest with a date, put your love life on hold until you can work out your issues.
Find a way to increase your self-esteem, so you won't feel it's necessary to be someone you're not.
Until you learn to speak the truth, no one is going to trust or respect you.