Breakups are seldom by mutual agreement. One person is usually caught by surprise, and in your case it was your ex boyfriend suddenly saying he needs a break. What does that mean, he needs a break? If he wants to end the relationship, why doesn't he just say so. Evidently he thinks this is a kinder, gentler way of dumping you. But no matter how he does it, the pain and heartbreak is the same. He is gone and you are left with the problem of how to get your ex boyfriend back after he says he needs a break. You will be happy to know that there are ways of getting your ex back, but first there are some things you need to work out.
First of all, do you really want him back because you love him, or are you just humiliated by thoughts of feeling dumped? If you are wondering how to tell your relatives and friends, do not worry, they will be on your side. In fact, they will probably tell you to let him go. But if you really love him and feel he is the man you want in your future, then here is the best way to go about it.
Your first impulse will be to go after him crying and begging him to tell you what is wrong. Why is he treating you this way? This will only be met by him doing his best to avoid you and he will lose respect for you because no man feels flattered by a woman who loses all dignity and does everything but lick his boots. Men respect women that are strong and independent. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, this is the appearance you have to show him.
He said he needed a break so give him a break. Do not have any contact with him at all. Forget his cell number, his email and text address. You need to drop out of his world completely. Think of yourself instead of him. A good way to start would be to think of what you might have done to cause him to feel hurt. This is why he needs a break. He is sulking over something you said or did. So, think hard of any spat or disagreement you might have had. No matter how trivial it may seem to you, it evidently was more to him. Â
Once you have figured out what set him off, go out with your friends and enjoy yourself. There is no need to sit by the phone, he is not going to call. By getting out and being seen as if you have taken the breakup in stride, you are showing him that you can have a life without him. He will hear of your activities and he will become afraid of losing you. He will get over needing a break real quick.
First of all, do you really want him back because you love him, or are you just humiliated by thoughts of feeling dumped? If you are wondering how to tell your relatives and friends, do not worry, they will be on your side. In fact, they will probably tell you to let him go. But if you really love him and feel he is the man you want in your future, then here is the best way to go about it.
Your first impulse will be to go after him crying and begging him to tell you what is wrong. Why is he treating you this way? This will only be met by him doing his best to avoid you and he will lose respect for you because no man feels flattered by a woman who loses all dignity and does everything but lick his boots. Men respect women that are strong and independent. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, this is the appearance you have to show him.
He said he needed a break so give him a break. Do not have any contact with him at all. Forget his cell number, his email and text address. You need to drop out of his world completely. Think of yourself instead of him. A good way to start would be to think of what you might have done to cause him to feel hurt. This is why he needs a break. He is sulking over something you said or did. So, think hard of any spat or disagreement you might have had. No matter how trivial it may seem to you, it evidently was more to him. Â
Once you have figured out what set him off, go out with your friends and enjoy yourself. There is no need to sit by the phone, he is not going to call. By getting out and being seen as if you have taken the breakup in stride, you are showing him that you can have a life without him. He will hear of your activities and he will become afraid of losing you. He will get over needing a break real quick.