Sometimes when we lose somebody close to us it can create a deep feeling of loss inside.
We may look back at some of the decisions we made and second them, wondering if things could have turned out differently.
You may have experienced these feelings.
Perhaps you have thought about trying to win your ex back.
Is it possible? Is there a right way and wrong way to do this? Only you can say whether getting back together with your ex will be a problem.
You know them very well and are aware of what it takes to maintain a relationship with this person.
If you determine that you want to get back together with the person the first step is opening communication.
Since you are probably at least a friend at this point, this shouldn't be too difficult.
Most people have a natural curiosity about what their ex has to say.
If they are unwilling to talk to you then you may need to apologize for a past deed.
You probably already know the best way to win back your ex, since it is directly related to his or her distinctive personality-which you know very well.
Try and think about what you did in your earlier courtship that made her fall for you.
What are your qualities that he or she most admires? Couldn't you use this to your advantage in charming her a second time? Now it's time to ask, what ended the relationship? Once you figure this out this is what you will address in new conversations.
Can you change a habit or practice that once disturbed your ex? What productive steps have you taken to change? Do your actions speak louder than your words or are you just making empty promises? Be upfront when you communicate and keep your dignity.
You are not begging for a second chance.
You are communicating like an adult and want to show this person why the relationship will work a second time.
This is usually seen as the right way to win back an ex.
There is not necessarily a wrong way, because honestly, different things work for different people.
Some people have found that playing upon an ex-lover's jealousy is the best way to elicit a response from them.
So they start dating other people and are sure to tell their ex about their new romance.
This may or may not be the best way to go about reconciling, depending upon the maturity level of your ex.
Try and keep your mind games in check.
Don't go so overboard in meeting new people that you become George Clooney or Angelina Jolie.
You could go too far and actually insult your ex's intelligence and destroy any chance you once had at getting back together.
If you think your ex is playing games, then it may be a good idea to start dating other people.
You have to show this person that you are serious about commitment and that if you cannot find it with them, that you will have to start looking elsewhere.
However, you are not doing this to play a game.
This is real life and you don't have time to wait around while someone makes up their mind.
Be prepared to walk away if you must.
This is the attitude that you take.
The worst way to handle this problem would be to beg for forgiveness without showing any real change or maturity about the situation.
This would only confirm your ex's suspicions about you, that you're not right for him or her, and can't handle a real relationship.
We may look back at some of the decisions we made and second them, wondering if things could have turned out differently.
You may have experienced these feelings.
Perhaps you have thought about trying to win your ex back.
Is it possible? Is there a right way and wrong way to do this? Only you can say whether getting back together with your ex will be a problem.
You know them very well and are aware of what it takes to maintain a relationship with this person.
If you determine that you want to get back together with the person the first step is opening communication.
Since you are probably at least a friend at this point, this shouldn't be too difficult.
Most people have a natural curiosity about what their ex has to say.
If they are unwilling to talk to you then you may need to apologize for a past deed.
You probably already know the best way to win back your ex, since it is directly related to his or her distinctive personality-which you know very well.
Try and think about what you did in your earlier courtship that made her fall for you.
What are your qualities that he or she most admires? Couldn't you use this to your advantage in charming her a second time? Now it's time to ask, what ended the relationship? Once you figure this out this is what you will address in new conversations.
Can you change a habit or practice that once disturbed your ex? What productive steps have you taken to change? Do your actions speak louder than your words or are you just making empty promises? Be upfront when you communicate and keep your dignity.
You are not begging for a second chance.
You are communicating like an adult and want to show this person why the relationship will work a second time.
This is usually seen as the right way to win back an ex.
There is not necessarily a wrong way, because honestly, different things work for different people.
Some people have found that playing upon an ex-lover's jealousy is the best way to elicit a response from them.
So they start dating other people and are sure to tell their ex about their new romance.
This may or may not be the best way to go about reconciling, depending upon the maturity level of your ex.
Try and keep your mind games in check.
Don't go so overboard in meeting new people that you become George Clooney or Angelina Jolie.
You could go too far and actually insult your ex's intelligence and destroy any chance you once had at getting back together.
If you think your ex is playing games, then it may be a good idea to start dating other people.
You have to show this person that you are serious about commitment and that if you cannot find it with them, that you will have to start looking elsewhere.
However, you are not doing this to play a game.
This is real life and you don't have time to wait around while someone makes up their mind.
Be prepared to walk away if you must.
This is the attitude that you take.
The worst way to handle this problem would be to beg for forgiveness without showing any real change or maturity about the situation.
This would only confirm your ex's suspicions about you, that you're not right for him or her, and can't handle a real relationship.