Does your current calendar look similar to this? · Do Laundry · Watch paint dry · Break up with significant other Ending a relationship is never at the top of anyone's "to-do list" but the fact remains that If a relationship has gone sour then someone has to take charge and make the move to end it.
It's surprising but many relationships end up going on well past their use by date just because breaking up is not fun for anyone.
Relationships end in different ways, sometimes they just fizzle out until one member finally admits defeat and announces it's time to move on.
Other times relationships can end in a super dramatic fashion complete with yelling, shouting and thrown suit cases! But how do you actually end a relationship in a way that no one gets hurt? Is it even possible? Before you do anything you want to make sure you are clear on why you want to end your romance.
The first thing you think of may not actually be the real reason you want to end things! Only once you have a clear understanding of why you want to end things can you progress.
Be honest with your partner and be true to yourself! Find a convenient time for both of you for the actual breakup.
No one likes being dumped on the phone so unless distance is a major issue between you and your partner take the time to end things face to face.
If you want to end on good terms with your partner then you need to conclude your relationship with love and compassion.
Arguments at the end generally don't end well.
You don't want to put your partner on the defensive.
Rather talk about things you have learnt from your time together and how many memories you will now cherish.
Your partner will most likely become emotional, respond to their needs and give them a hug! Try not to take anything personally when you end your relationship.
It's a highly emotional time and your partner may say things they don't actually mean.
Don't fight back, just let it slide.
Once you break up your partner may behave differently.
They may need a lot of space to get over things or they may need to see you more than once before they can conclude things and move on.
Try and help your ex as best you can to get through the transition.
Don't let your ex guilt you into staying! Try and end things on a positive note, remember you are ending the relationship for the right reasons and it is the best for both of you.
Having given all of this advice you may be wondering if it is possible to reconnect down the line with your partner.
The truth is that just about any relationship can be saved if you have the right conditions.
Depending on how determined you are to save your relationship you can even get through this period of time as a stronger couple!