Anyone who had gone through a break up knew that the sudden loss can leave anyone feeling bereft of happiness, numb with disbelief, and the sense of finality that the relationship you had fostered for a time is over.
But you can get back together after a break up if you seriously want to.
Before you can get back together after a break up, you first need to figure out why it happened in the first place.
Understanding the whys and hows of the previous relationship will help you become a better person and decrease your chances of committing the same mistakes in your next relationship, whether or not is it with the same person.
It's normal to have second thoughts, and if you think about it, you're not the only one suffering from this relentless onslaught of emotions, your ex is also on the same boat with you.
One of the things that will help you get back together after a break up is actually what people least expect to hear: moving on with your lives.
It's invariable that when you're in a relationship, you lose sight of your own personal identity.
Too much togetherness will have people refer to you as the couple, hardly realizing that the couple is made up of different individuals.
This sudden loss of couple identity will be your greatest nemesis in winning your confidence back and moving on.
Despite your fears, you can take back your identity and discover more about yourself in the process of rediscovering the you before you were in the relationship.
Once you're sure of who you are, your confidence will be the shining beacon that would allow your ex to gravitate towards you.
It doesn't matter who initiate contact first, but once it's established, take baby steps towards where you want to go, and pretty soon, you'll get there.